THE SECRET OF IMPRESSIONS AND IDENTITY
(And the “You’re special”-formula)
Once in a while, we all come across people we meet that we find interesting. It doesn’t really matter how old they are, where they’re from, or if they’re man or women.
Most people dream about being that kind of person – leaving a strong impression with a interesting and desirable character – And, that’s what this (my very first blogpost) is about.
The secret of impressions and identity. But first, to make sure we’re on the same path, let’s do a quick
(I just couldn’t make up a cool name, sorry.)
Anyway… What you need to do now is stop reading for a second, and really think about someone you met in the past which you thought was really interesting – And gave you a good strong impression. It could be anyone, just pick the first one that crosses your mind.
Yeah I know it sounds a little bit stupid, but stay with me for a second here, and really – Just do it (like the sneakers say)
Got one? Good.
Take a quick break from reading again, think about a time where you met, and close your eyes for about 10 seconds and remember their personality.
Now, let’s leave this for a second, and
let’s get STRAIGHT down to the point.
It all comes down to one single thing.
We all categorize people. I do it, And I know you do as well. Either unconsciously or consciously.
When we look at someone for the first time we meet/see them we unconsciously immediately get a first impression of this person based on looks, voice tone and body language (and other aspects such as environment, culture, etc.)
But… At this point: their words doesn’t really matter. You’ve seen them once, you “sort of” get a clue of who you’re looking at, and you categorize almost right away.
Here’s a few examples we’ve all seen before (and no offence towards any of them, okay?)
• Bimbo girl
• Skinhead guy.
• Nerdy student.
• Hot teacher.
• Pick-up artist.
• Single mom.
• Single dad.
• Cool skate guy
• White hiphop-kid
Got the point? Good!
Now, try to make up at least one or two types of people on your own, and think about the last time you met someone who would fit into that category.
What we have here, above, my ladies and gentlemen… well… they’re different stereotypes and identities.
”What about them?” you may ask.
Well, be patient, we’re almost there.
Now, here’s the first important fact:
Frankly, you almost always decide right away if you like a person or not the first time you meet them. And, when you do – there’s lots of things that comes into play.
The first one I like to talk about really isn’t that interesting in a persuasion and influence way, because we can’t control it the way we want, and therefore it’s not really worth trying to do anything about.
What I’m talking about is
The imaginary person personified
(You say what?)
Well, lots of girls imagine their perfect boyfriend (and guys two, of course). But let’s use girls in this example:
She believes that he should be this tall, smoker or non smoker, talk in special kind of way, look at her a special way, have a specific sort of taste when it comes to food, Drive this sort of care, have this type of job, etc. etc.
Well, I guess you get the point. Lots of times, girls fantasize about their prince charming so much they’ll get addicted to him. It’s the same with guys, but… for some strange reason it’s not that common.
Now, if you can make an impression of being this person, you WILL have all the influence in the world towards this person. No doubt. If you can personify this dream character – well, you can stop reading RIGHT NOW and go out and get whoever you want to do whatever you wish.
And, for those who doesn’t know how to do that, let’s do some more reading: Now, here’s another type of character most people adore and attract to:
The uncategorizable person
Remember that I told you about how we, as humans, categorize people. It’s true for all of us, with different categories made up for each individual (of course), but there’s ONE universal truth.
By the way – we do this, and make these HUGE generalizations, because we need to help our brain filter out all the information we absorb. It’s not “mean”, and it’s not about judging people in any way – It’s to make life easier.
Well, the universal truth is, no matter how many different stereotypes and generalizations we create, there will always be those who just doesn’t “fit in”… and those people are… well…
People we can’t categorize!
I meet a lot of people. And the people I really find interesting are those who doesn’t fall into ANY of my made-up chategories/stereotypes/generalizations.
They’re not like others, their behaviours can’t really be predicted, and they have their own perspectives of life. When I meet this kind of of people I become interested in them RIGHT AWAY and want to know more about them. They are… what we call… SPECIAL!
They have their own category and they’re like no other. And, that makes them very, very unique - They all fall into the
same but different category, and it’s called
“LIKE-NO-OTHERS ” Category
That special girl, that special friend, that guy you love to hate or hate to love because he’s … well… he’s just himself!
”What do you mean?” you’re asking. Wait, a second.
I asked you to remember a meeting with someone special who really influenced you and gave you a strong first impression. That’s the type of person i’m talking about.
You didn’t know it at that point, but you somehow thought that you wanted to get to know this person better.
These types of people share one thing. And it’s not something related to their style, their looks or even sex, age or culture.
They have a STRONG IDENTITY.
And a strong identity always leaves a STRONG impression. When this type of people speak, you listen because you don’t know where it’s leading, and you want to know because they have such a interesting way (or even annoying way) of looking at things.
At first, you might be thinking ”Hmm… I know where this is leading…” ,
but then you go:
”… Oh wait… this is not the type of stuff I hear every day.”
It’s a universal truth. We find the uncategorizable person INTERESTING. Because of the strong identity that leaves a strong impression.
AND here’s the GOOD NEWS…
If this is true, it would also be true that becoming this person would get YOU in the same position as that ”person which you REALLY consider interesting and impressing”, right? The guy or girl that everyone remember.
… Right? Damn right.
So, let’s wrap this up. I call it the “you’re special”-formula (you may change the name if you don’t like it).
Here it is, in quick version
1. We meet/see/communicate with a whole bunch of people
2. To help our brain, we filter them out in different categories / stereotypes
3. Those who doesn’t fit into any category stands out from the masses
4. So, our brain wants to figure them out and get to know them
5. They influence us because we need to have a “open mind” when they interact with us
6. And, most of the time – the people we really like/love – we got to know them this way
So, by now, if I’ve been guiding your brain in the right direction, you should be thinking something like:
”Oh… all I need to do is become this person Russell is talking about and … but wait… to do that I’ll have to change my identity… and that sounds like a lot of work”.
Yes! It takes about 10 years from today, but then you WILL succeed!
No, wait, I’m kidding!
You should NEVER change your personality, but what you, however, r need to change is the way you show people your true identity and interact with them.
And this is one of the things I’ll teach you very soon. I want to show it to you right now, but as I type this – in Word – I’m up to 5 pages (and to explain this, it would be another 5 pages).
I want to show you all of it, but we need to do it with one thing at the time.
So, I want you to go out, and be aware of this. Look at people and look for those who doesn’t fall into a category.
And, for those of you who’s reading this to influence and seduce women (or even the 1% girls on this list, who wants to pick up guys)… I have a surprise for you:
You can USE THIS STORY (yes, the one you’re reading right now) to ATTRACT THE HELL out of ANYONE you meet. Not sure what I mean? Well, comment here below if you’ve figured out what I mean, or want to know - or just send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org